What are your guidelines for table manners and how important is dining etiquette to you and your family? Why do you consider it so important, or why is it not so important?
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DEAR--
While we sit at dinning table,the first priority should be that we should not cause any inconveniance to others.Others should feel the pleasure of eating while we are there.our gestures and food eating habits should not irritate them.
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Table manners is important because it teaches the self disciplie in the life.
Manners are important in society. They help us to be civil to one another. Because a person who minds their manners knows how to act in every circumstance he tends to feel comfortable in unfamiliar surroundings.
Good basic table manners are important because they ensure that both guests and hosts are comfortable at the table. Table manners are mostly common sense. Following these will carry you through most common situations from Formal Dinners to a night of poker with the guys.
1. Sit up straight. Try not to slouch or lean back in your chair (even if you are playing cards and don't want you opponents to see your hand).
2. Don't speak with your mouth full of food. Sure, you've heard your mother say it a hundred times, but no one likes to see a ball of masticated meat in your mouth. If you feel you must speak immediately, if you have only a relatively small bite, tuck it into your cheek with your tongue and speak briefly.
3. Chew quietly, and try not to slurp. This is a corollary of rule number 2. Making noises is not only unappetizing, and distracting, but it can also interrupt the flow of conversation.
4. Keep bites small. In order to facilitate the above rules it is smart to keep bite sizes to a moderate forkful. Cut meat and salad so that it doesn't hang from your mouth after you shovel it in. Don't cut all of your meat at one time, this tends to remind people of feeding small children - and the messiness associated with this activity.
5. Eat at a leisurely pace. This rule, besides being good for the digestion, also shows your host that you want to enjoy the food and the company. Eating quickly and running is sign of disrespect for the host, as it shows that your focus is on the food and that you would rather be at home watching the grass grow than passing time with your host.
6. Don't wave utensils in the air, especially knives or if there is food on them. Besides the danger of knocking over glasses, piercing waiters or launching a pea into the eye of your date, this is a sign of over-excitedness that may be unappealing to those present. Earnestness is to be commended, but irrational exuberance goes beyond the limits of good table manners.
7. Keep your elbows off the table. You have also heard this one from your mother, ad infinitum, but in close dining situations it is a vital rule. Elbows take up table space and can be a danger in knocking plates or glasses. Elbows on the table give you something to lean on and tend to lull you into slouching. If you must lean on the table a good tactic is to take a roll or piece of bread into your free hand and rest part of your forearm on the table.
8. Don't Reach. You don't want to get in the way of people either eating or talking. Not only is it as impolite as standing in front of a TV with other people behind you, but there is always the possibility of upsetting glasses or running your sleeve through someone's mashed potatoes.
9. Don't forget please and thank you. These are handy words in most situations but especially vital at the table where common courtesies are noticed by everyone present.
10. Excuse yourself when leaving the table. You don't want people to think that you are tired of their company. If you must leave the table make your excuses somewhat obvious and appear to be pressing. You want to leave people with the impression that you would rather remain at the table talking with them than doing anything else, but the matter at hand is so pressing that it must be attended to at once.
11. Compliment the Cook. Even if the food is perfectly awful say something nice. You don't have to lie, simply find the positive side of the burnt leg of lamb..."Gee, the sauce was sure tasty." It is always pleasant to end a meal on a positive note.
12. Wipe your mouth before drinking. Ever notice that disgusting smudge on the edge of your wine glass? This can be avoided by first wiping your lips with your napkin. (Thanks to Lindy Hill for this contribution.)
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Using good table manners shows a respect for your fellow diners. Even in today's typically casual dining atmosphere, displaying good basic manners is necessary. Most of us have shared a meal with someone who made the experience unpleasant by exhibiting a lack of manners--you don't want to be that person!I would be very particular about the table manners. I insist the same thing with my family members also. The very common table manners that I can suggest are:
1. Don't speak with your mouth full of food.
2. Chew your food without any noise.
3. Keep your elbows off the table.
4. Excuse yourself when leaving the table
5. Don't forget to say please and thank you
There are many other important table manners that has to be remembered. To help you, here are few:
1.As soon as you are seated, place your dinner napkin on your lap. As you use it during your meal, return it to its place on your lap. At the end of the meal, place your soiled napkin next to your plate, but do not refold it.
2.When your place setting contains a number of utensils, the general rule of thumb is to use them in order, from the outside in. If your host or hostess has properly set the table, the flatware will be laid out to match up with each course served. Once you have used a utensil, never place it back on the table or tablecloth. As you finish each course, place the utensil on the plate or bowl, along the edge furthest from you.
3.Sit up straight and keep your elbows off of the table. It is not okay to lean back in your chair, slouch, or lean forward onto the table. While you should never place your elbows on the table, it is permissible to rest your wrists on the table edge between courses.
4. At meals that are served "family style," platters should be passed to the right, or counterclockwise.
5. Never chew with your mouth open or talk with food in your mouth. Take small bites so that you can swallow your food easily and maintain a pleasant dinner conversation.
6. Be sure to swallow your food before taking a sip of your drink.
7.When eating a salad, be sure to cut the lettuce and other vegetables into comfortable bite-sized servings. Never try to wrangle a large chunk of food into your mouth!
8. If soup is served, dip your spoon into the bowl moving away from you and then sip (not slurp!) the soup from the spoon. As the bowl nears empty, it is alright to tip it a bit away from you to get the last few spoonfuls. Never pick up your soup bowl and "drink" the remainder.
9.When eating a bread roll, tear off a bite at a time rather than biting into the whole roll. If you choose to butter your bread, place a small pat or two on your bread plate and then butter each individual bite-sized piece. Do not dip your bread into gravy or other sauces.
10.Very few foods should be eaten with your fingers. When in doubt, use your utensils or follow the lead of your hostess.
11.If you need something that is out of your reach (the salt shaker, for instance), politely ask someone to pass it to you. Never lean across the table to grab something.
12.If you drop your napkin or a utensil during your meal, lean over to pick it up only if it is within easy reach. If not, leave it be. For formal dinners, always leave it and ask the server to bring you a fresh one.
13.Remain seated throughout the entire meal, unless you have an emergency or become ill. If you must leave the table, be sure to excuse yourself.
14.Always turn off pagers and cellular phones during a meal. If you must leave your phone on because of the potential for a work or personal emergency, be sure to excuse yourself from the table before taking a call.
15.If you are dining in someone's home, do not sit down until your hosts do, unless they request that you do so. Never begin eating until all guests are seated and the host begins his meal.
16.If you get something stuck in your teeth, do not try to remove it at the table. If it is bothersome, you may excuse yourself to the washroom to remove the offending item.
17.Never do any personal grooming at the table. If you need to straighten your hair or freshen your lipstick, do so after the meal in the privacy of the restroom.
18.If you are a guest in someone's home and they choose to pray before a meal, you have two choices. Either bow your head and join in or remain quietly seated until they are finished.
19.Try to be open-minded about trying new foods, especially when dining in someone's home. Your hosts went to considerable effort to present you with a pleasurable dining experience; do not offend them by refusing their offerings. If you have a food allergy that would prevent you from trying something, politely explain. You can say, "It looks delicious, but unfortunately I am allergic to strawberries."
20.Compliment the cook. Be sure to thank your host or hostess for your meal and offer a sincere compliment on the meal. Even if you didn't particularly enjoy the food, you can certainly come up with something nice to say!
Look for the good. Instead of pointing out all the things your child does wrong, point out what she does right. Say, "I was so proud of you when we went to the Joneses for dinner. It was wonderful the way you served yourself when the platter passed by."
Don't turn dinner into an unpleasant "lecture time." That will turn kids off not only to manners, but to dinner, and to you, too.
Check your own example. Don't show up for dinner in just your underwear unless you want your kids to do the same.
Don't label your child as a slob. Instead, point out the behavior in a neutral, practical way. For example: "It's a good idea to unfold your napkin so if food falls you won't stain your clothes."
Approach manners as a game. One night a week, try to have a somewhat more formal dinner. Try dressing up, serve a special meal, and expect more formal manners. That will help improve your kids' social graces.
Let kids know that a manners offense doesn't exist if there's nobody there to see it. If you eat mashed potatoes with your fingers, and you're alone, or with a friend who has agreed to suspend that manner, it's not a violation.
Make kids part of the tradition. Invite guests over and let kids help serve hors d'oeuvres. This helps them indirectly learn about the manners that surround eating.
If you hear a burp, explain that in some cultures burping is a way of showing your appreciation, but here in America it's considered rude. If you were to do that in someone else's house, he might think you're a slob and may not want you to come back.
Hope these tips can help us to learn how to teach good table manners to kids.
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Table manners are very important to be cultivated in every person, right from the childhood. Children have a habit to immitate their parents and the elders who they see around them so we should make sure that we ourselves follow them so as to make our kids aware of these from the beginning.
Following are general guidelines to be followed as a part of table manners:
1. One should arrange the dishes and spoon, fork etc well on the table.
2. Dishes should preferably be kept on mats. Even for hot serving bowls, we should use bowls.
3. We should not talk while eating.
4. We should avoid making noise with our spoons.
5. We should use a hand napkin while dining to wipe our halds if required.
6. We should take care that food doesn't spill on the table or floor while we are eating.
7. Bowls, while not in use, should be kept covered.
8. We should eat slowly and avoid attending to phone calls or even getting up from the table till everyone on the table finishes his dining.
9. We should preferably not keep infants dining on the same table. It becomes uncomfortable for them and even for others. Special side tables or child tables can be used for them.
10. If eating in a restaurant, we should not argue or behave badly with the waiters and other hotel staff.
11. We should not over insist on others to have more.
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Table manners, dining etiquette are terms which we have borrowed from British culture. In India, we had altogether a different set of rules for dining, which quite differ from these so called table manners in today's society. Well, HOME means where you are most comfortable and you live the way you want to. At the same time, we all need to provide enough freedom to our family members to live the way they like at home. So, in my opinion, table manners and dining etiquettes are not very important at home. But yes, when its about dining outside or at somebody else's place, these surely come into picture as then we have no right to make others uncomfortable by our habits : P
These things are important only to the extent of everybody feeling comfortable with the rules. In no way should these be encouraged or forced if doing so hinders the peace and love of our home. The advantages of learning dining etiquettes are as follows:
1. When we go out for dining, we do not feel odd one out. 2. People dining along with us do not feel ashamed of being with us. 3. We dont end up creating a mess at the table and leave the table in good condition. 4. We feel confident about ourselves!
Disadvantages:
1. Some people may not be comfortable with dining etiquettes and will find it tough to dine with us. 2. We become rigid about these things so much that we tend to comment on people who dont follow these, or we tend to stare at those who dont follow, making them uncomfortable. 3. The etiquette consciousness does not let us enjoy the meal to the full. 4. Kids who are yet to learn these etiquettes, find it hard to eat when they see such conscious people around them, and feel frustrated.
Some basic table manners/dining etiquettes absolutely needed in my opinion include: 1. Trying to keep the table clean, not dropping foodstuff around. 2. Eating patiently, not in a hurry of just finishing up the food. 3. Using napkins so as to not spoil our clothes and irritate others. 4. Making less noise with use of cutlery, thus not disturbing others at the table. 5. Not speaking much as some people would not be comfortable answering or engaging in conversations while dining. 6. Not throwing any wastes outside the plate or dumping into glasses, etc. 7. If by mistake, we drop some foodstuff on the table, one should pick it up and keep in one's own plate, so that it does not look dirty to others dining along.
Till we are not irritating others on the table by any means, dining etiquettes are not that strictly necessary. But yes, when in public it is good to follow them for the sake of others. One need not be strict about these at home, though. This is my idea of dinner etiquettes and table manners!!!
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hi,
Table Manners
Most families have established their own table manners that are important to them. Here are a few that should be remembered when you are at home and when you are a guest
Never reach for any food that is not right in front of you. Ask someone to pass it. And if you are passing something, don't help yourself along the way. If your food is too hot, wait for it to cool. Don't blow on it. If you put something in your mouth that's too hot, don't spit it out. Reach for your water and take a quick swallow. Don't talk with your mouth full. Bring your food up to your mouth rather than bending over to reach it. There are a few additional rules for eating in a restaurant: Don't be upset if you spill something. It happens all the time. The waiter will clean it up. Don't pick up your silverware if you drop it on the floor. Ask the waiter to replace it for you. Don't put packages or handbags on the table. Don't comb your hair at the table. Don't use a toothpick in public.
The host hostess of a dinner party should be the last one served. If the meal is getting cold, the host/hostess may state something to the effect, "Please begin while the food is still warm".
1)At a formal dinner party,When entertaining formally, dishes are presented or served at guest's left and removed from the right side. Glasses are filled from the right. 2)What is the proper etiquette when the woman excuses herself and returns? Answer: In a social setting, it is always appropriate for a male to stand when a female is taking her leave. However, in a business setting, it is not always necessary for a male to rise whenever his female coworker(s) leave the table 3).Should you dismiss yourself from the table if you need to sneeze or blow your nose?
A. Yes, excuse yourself from the table, and at no time should you use your napkin as a handkerchief.
dining etiquette Dining Etiquette Tips: With the kind of culture that exists today, dining etiquette is almost a thing of the past. You can use some of these dining etiquette tips to present yourself in an effective manner to the people around you.
It may sound old fashioned to some but remember that men have to be a little ahead of the women when they are going towards the dining table. They should stand till the host or the hostess finishes the announcements and sits down.
The napkin is another important part about dining etiquette and I have often seen people struggling with the same. Unfold the napkin only when everyone is seated at the dining table and place it on the lap. This has to be unfolded either in the shape of a large triangle or in the shape of a rectangle. Your napkin is not a substitute for tissue; you can always ask for a separate tissue paper if you feel the need to do so.
Talking with food in your mouth is the first mistake you would commit at the dining table. Dining etiquette needs to be maintained as talking too much at dinnertime can be a real turn off for many.
When you are at the dining table, you must know the order of the food and the crockery that is placed to be able to maintain the dining etiquette. Solid food is always placed on the left and any form of liquid is placed on the right. The largest plate is the dinner plate, a medium sized plate would be your salad plate and a small sized plate would be your bread plate. The glass of wine or water will be placed on the right side. Begin using the spoons and forks from the outside area and towards the inside of the plate.
Use the knife to butter the bread. Take some amount of butter in your plate and use the butter knife to spread the butter.
When soup is served to you, it may at times be really too hot to be consumed. Even then, blowing on the hot soup is not the right kind of dining etiquette one would expect from a professional!
Sometimes the salad may contain huge leaves that may be a little cumbersome to eat. In that case use your salad fork to cut them into smaller pieces.
Order something that is easy to eat if you wish to avoid drawing attention to yourself! This will be particularly helpful if your employer gives the dinner party.
Always remember to maintain a correct posture at the dining table. Remember one important thing about dining etiquette; do not rush to grab food in front of a person.
If you notice that some wine has also been served then pick up the glass by holding the stem of the glass. You need to use your thumb and the first two fingers for this.
When you use the knife to cut small pieces of food, cut only 2 to 3 pieces at a time. Eat only few pieces at a time as well.
When it’s time to use the finger bowl, dip the fingers of only one hand at first. Use the napkin on your lap to dry them.
Dining etiquette is not really as difficult as it may seem to be. You may find it difficult to adjust in the beginning but remember that all it takes is a little bit of thinking and consideration from your side to be able to present yourself in the best manner possible.
and yes these table manners are so important in our daily lives even
I think that manners are pretty important when you are trying to impress or with the 'older' generation. When you are just with your family though you don't have to be on your best behaviour at all times....but please and thank you are important
these are the table manners that matter...even at home
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I am giving some basic table manners that are important according to Indian traditions.These are meant to respect food and elders.It is good manners to have food like a civilized person. It is important because it is eating way that makes us different from other animals, otherwise each animal also has food.
I am not providing a list like fork in right hand and spoon in left , I am just providing some basic manners that should be adopted by a family regularly
* Wait for the host or the eldest person to start first. * You should maintain silence while eating food. You are not expected to chat unnecessarily with the people around the table. * It is acceptable not to use cutlery for eating, as many foods - such as Indian breads and curry - are best enjoyed when eating with the hand. * Wash hands thoroughly before sitting at the table as some Indian foods are primarily eaten by hand. Also, wash hands after eating the food. Usually, a finger bowl (with luke warm water and lemon) is served per person for rinsing fingers. * In North India, when eating curry, the gravy must not be allowed to stain the fingers --only the fingertips are used. However, in South India, it is acceptable to use more of your hand. * When flat breads such as chapati, roti, or naan are served with the meal, it is acceptable and expected to use pieces of them to gather food and sop-up gravies and curries. * The cardinal rule of dining is to always use the right hand when eating or receiving food and never the left. Even a piece from the bread is broken using the right hand alone. * It is considered inappropriate to use your fingers to share food from someone else's plate once you have started using your own. Instead, ask for a clean spoon to transfer the food to your plate from the common dish. * When eating with hands, always eat with right, as mentioned above. However, use only the other clean hand to transfer food from a common dish on the table. * It is not necessary to taste each and every dish prepared; but you must finish everything on the plate as it is considered a respect for served food. For that reason, take only as much food on the plate you can finish. * Do not chew so loudly that someone else can hear it * Chew with your mouth closed * Eat everything on the plate; leaving some food is considered wasteful * Eating additional servings is considered polite and a compliment to the host * When using a knife and fork, eat American style switching fork from left to right hand or keep knife in left hand * Do not start eating until the eldest in the family eats first * If eating food with bread, first tear bread in half. Then break off a small piece, only using your right hand if you can do so elegantly. Use bread to pinch or scoop food between thumb and fingers.
General Behavior
* Chew with your mouth closed. * Do not talk with food in your mouth. * Do not talk at an excessively loud volume. * Refrain from coughing, sneezing or blowing nose at the table. * Never tilt back your chair while at the table. Sit in a relaxed and comfortable position, but do not "slouch." * Do not "play with" your food, or with your table utensils. * Do not make loud or unusual noises while eating. * Do not single out, chastise or tell someone who has shown poor table manners. * It is generally acceptable to rest your fore-arms on the table, though you should take care to never rest your elbows on the table. * Always ask the host or hostess to be excused before leaving the table. * Do not stare at anyone while he or she is eating. It is considered rude. * Never talk on your phone or text a friend at the table. If an urgent matter arises, ask host or hostess to be excused, and step away from the table. * Do not slurp your food or eat loudly. * Burping or sneezing at the table should be avoided. If you must do so, you may request that your action be excused. * Excessive flatulence is generally frowned upon * Never tell people what to do other than someone who is responsible for other people at the table. * Men should not wear a hat at the dinner table.
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Table manners are the etiquette used when eating. This includes the appropriate use of utensils. Different cultures have different standards for table manners. Many table manners evolved out of practicality. For example, it is generally impolite to put elbows on tables since doing so creates a risk of tipping over bowls and cups. Within different families or groups, there may be less rigorous enforcement of some traditional table manners of their culture while still maintaining others. For example, some families ignore elbows on the table or mixing of foods.
Indian table manners
* Wait for the host or the eldest person to start first. * You should maintain silence while eating food. You are not expected to chat unnecessarily with the people around the table. * It is acceptable not to use cutlery for eating, as many foods - such as Indian breads and curry - are best enjoyed when eating with the hand. * Wash hands thoroughly before sitting at the table as some Indian foods are primarily eaten by hand. Also, wash hands after eating the food. Usually, a finger bowl (with luke warm water and lemon) is served per person for rinsing fingers. * In North India, when eating curry, the gravy must not be allowed to stain the fingers --only the fingertips are used. However, in South India, it is acceptable to use more of your hand. * When flatbreads such as chapati, roti, or naan are served with the meal, it is acceptable and expected to use pieces of them to gather food and sop-up gravies and curries. * The cardinal rule of dining is to always use the right hand when eating or receiving food and never the left. Even a piece from the bread is broken using the right hand alone. * It is considered inappropriate to use your fingers to share food from someone else's plate once you have started using your own. Instead, ask for a clean spoon to transfer the food to your plate from the common dish. * When eating with hands, always eat with right, as mentioned above. However, use only the other clean hand to transfer food from a common dish on the table. * It is not necessary to taste each and every dish prepared; but you must finish everything on the plate as it is considered a respect for served food. For that reason, take only as much food on the plate you can finish.
Why table manners are important ?
Manners are important in society. They help us to be civil to one another. Because a person who minds their manners knows how to act in every circumstance he tends to feel comfortable in unfamiliar surroundings.
Nowhere are manners more important that at the table. Table manners prevent diners from being sloppy, offensive and boorish. They help to communicate respect to hosts and guests alike. Table manners are not hard and fast rules, rather they are helpful guidelines in our social relationships.
Table manners is an important value to instill in all family members. The family meal. One of the great traditions of our culture that is being swept away by the McDonald’s drive-through and widescreen TVs. But in our family, this tradition is alive and well, mostly because we don’t have a widescreen TV and the closest McDonald’s is twenty minutes away.
I think that the best part of the family dinner is that it provides an ideal time for Art and I to instill good table manners in our darling little offspring. Such important social skills as which fork to use (yours, not Daddy’s or the one you found under the couch), how to hold your cup (right side up is the preferred method), and how to carry on a pleasant dinner conversation (no potty stories is a good start) are easily taught while sharing a delightful meal around the dining room table.
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Hello, Good table manners are important at home as that is from where our children pick up the do's and don'ts to behave in public. We do not want our family to be in an embarrasing situation any where outside.
Most important rules are: Be at the table when asked. Everyone should be the table at the same time. Say you are sorry if you are unable to do it by any reason.
Be a Roman in Rome. It is better to follow the rules of the place. If you are used to eating with hands, do it only if others around are comfortable doing so. Use spoon and fork when everyone around you uses one.
Take food in moderate quantities. Make sure everyone around you also has moderate quantity of food.
Place the spoon set just to right of the plate. Place it comfortably on a tisssue and avoid making noises with it.
Use napkins and spread it on the lap to avoid spills spoiling your dress.
Do not talk with food in the mouth. Talk only things that are interesting for people around you.
Avoid making noises while chewing food.
Leave the table with everyone. Not as soon as one has finished eating.
Last but not the least, do not waste food. Take only what you would eat. Order food in moderate quantities. Best wishes.
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Table Manners play an important role in making a favourable impression from the Manners set for every aspect of social existence. They are visible signals of our behaviour and upbringing and therefore essential to professional as well as personal success. How to Behave at the Dining Table: 1.Posture: Sit up straight at the table, never lean backward, nor forward and also never let the elbows touch the table. This makes a good impression. When you are not eating, keep your hands on your lap or rest on the table. 2."Please" and "Thank you": Say "Please" when asking people to pass you something and "Thank you" when you receive something. These are basic table manners. 3.Napkin: The best way to use a napkin is to place it on your lap, to catch crumbs or drips while eating food and should be kept back on the table neatly, after the meal is finished. 4.Hosts: Generally the head of the family or the host passes the meal down to the family, mostly done in counter clockwise movement around the table. 5.Fork and Knife: It is best to order foods that can be eaten with a knife and a fork. Finger foods can be messy and are best left for informal dining. 6.Slow and Quiet: Chew small morsels food and swallow with the mouth closed. The only way to eat is slowly and quietly. 7.Tablecloth: Remember that the tablecloth should be kept clean. Do not put bones or any other morsels on the table. 8.Spitting: If there is something in the mouth, which can't be swallowed, quietly put it in a paper napkin and then continue. (E.g. bones, seeds, curry leaves, etc.). Avoid spitting anything out. 9.End the meal properly. When a person has finished eating, the fork and the knife are placed diagonally crossed across the plate, this is the best way to inform the server that you have finished eating. 10.Appreciation: After finishing your meal, express appreciation for the meal. You can perhaps say Thank you so much; It was a very tasty meal. And then wait for all to finish before leaving the table. 11.Smoking: None should smoke while seated for the meal. 12.Wait for others to start eating. 13.One should avoid touching nose, teeth and combing hair while dinning.
Our social activities increasingly revolve around dinners and parties, and table etiquette and manners play an important part in creating a favorable impression on both new found and old friends alike.
Here are some more table etiquette tips to guide you.
Napkin Use
Wait for the host to unfold his napkin before you do. Remove and unfold the napkin from your table setting and place it across your lap. In some very formal restaurants, the waiter may do this for the guests.
The napkin will rest on the lap till the end of the meal and be used to gently dab or wipe your mouth when needed. If you need to leave the table, loosely fold and place the napkin neatly on the left or right of your plate. You may hang the napkin over the back of your chair, do not place it on the seat of your chair.
At the end of the meal, place the napkin semi-folded on the table to the left side of the setting.
Table Settings
Any food dishes placed on the left and glassware on the right are yours. As the meal progresses, use the silverware from outside in.
Rest the fork and knife on the side of your plate when you have not finished your meal, do not rest it on the table. This placement is a signal to the waiter not to remove your plate.
Do not push the plate away from you after finishing your meal. Instead place both the fork and knife beside each other on the plate with the handles resting at 5 o’clock of your plate and tips pointing to 11 o’clock of your plate.
General Dining Etiquette Tips
Arrive at least 10 minutes early before the actual invited time. Always say “please”” if you are asking for something and say “thank you” to the waiter after they remove your dishes.
If someone asks for salt or pepper, pass both together.
Dishes are passed from left to right. When a waiter serves you, food will be presented on your left, and removed from your right after you have finished.
It is impolite to turn the glass upside down to decline wine. If you are asked about wine and will not be drinking, decline quietly and politely. Otherwise, you may hold your hand over the wine glass to signal that you do not want any wine to be served.
Always taste your food before adding any seasoning onto it. It is considered rude to the chef if you season it before tasting the food.
Cut enough food only for the next mouthful. Eat slowly in small bites. Do not talk when your mouth is full.
Do not put your elbows on the table. Place your hands on your lap or rest your wrists on the edge of the table if not eating.
Do not apply makeup at the table.
Excuse yourself from the table if you want to do so.
Try to pace your meal to finish at the same time as your host or with the of the majority of the group at the table.
Butter or dips are to be transferred from the serving plate to your plate first before eating.
Dip the spoon into the soup and scoop from the centre of the bowl to the edge, moving away from you.
Here are some good table manners that I teach my children to follow.It is very important to follow these table manners. Chew with your mouth closed. Do not talk with food in your mouth. Do not talk at an excessively loud volume. Refrain from coughing, sneezing or blowing nose at the table. Never tilt back your chair while at the table. Sit in a relaxed and comfortable position, but do not "slouch." Do not "play with" your food, or with your table utensils. Do not make loud or unusual noises while eating. Do not single out, chastise or tell someone who has shown poor table manners. It is generally acceptable to rest your fore-arms on the table, though you should take care to never rest your elbows on the table. Always ask the host or hostess to be excused before leaving the table. Do not stare at anyone while he or she is eating. It is considered rude. Never talk on your phone or text a friend at the table. If an urgent matter arises, ask host or hostess to be excused, and step away from the table. Do not slurp your food or eat loudly. Burping or sneezing at the table should be avoided. If you must do so, you may request that your action be excused. Excessive flatulence is generally frowned upon Never tell people what to do other than someone who is responsible for other people at the table. Men should not wear a hat at the dinner table. Chew with your mouth closed. Do not talk with food in your mouth. Do not talk at an excessively loud volume. Refrain from coughing, sneezing or blowing nose at the table. Never tilt back your chair while at the table. Sit in a relaxed and comfortable position, but do not "slouch." Do not "play with" your food, or with your table utensils. Do not make loud or unusual noises while eating. Do not single out, chastise or tell someone who has shown poor table manners. It is generally acceptable to rest your fore-arms on the table, though you should take care to never rest your elbows on the table. Always ask the host or hostess to be excused before leaving the table. Do not stare at anyone while he or she is eating. It is considered rude. Never talk on your phone or text a friend at the table. If an urgent matter arises, ask host or hostess to be excused, and step away from the table. Do not slurp your food or eat loudly. Burping or sneezing at the table should be avoided. If you must do so, you may request that your action be excused. Excessive flatulence is generally frowned upon Never tell people what to do other than someone who is responsible for other people at the table. Men should not wear a hat at the dinner table.
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Lot has been said about table manners. I agree one should comply to things which are counted as manners but aren't we ignoring the fact that even table manners differ from culture to culture?....
Take for example Indian culture, we do not believe in a "table", and that doesn't mean we dont have manners!!!! Traditionally in India, people while eating were required to sit on the floor on a clean mat and food was served to them. This practice had its own meaning. Even healthwise, this position is one of the most comfortable ones and while eating, it is advised to have the most comfortable posture possible so that the mind and body, both can relax and food is digested well. Food in such cultures was eaten using your hand. If people argue about the cleanliness of the hand, how clean do they think is the spoon anyway!!!!!!!
Considering the western perspective which nowadays we all believe refers to table manners, we have to maintain certain posture while dining.
Likewise each culture has its own set of the so called table manners and each one has its own reasons to support these practices.
More information regarding table manners can be gathered from the following websites. Please see this, its interesting: Although I did not believe its ethical to copy it as my answer while one of our advisers has done that :) . I would request all our Ammas members to please maintain the reputation of this site by not copy pasting data directly from internet or from other advisors answers
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Good manners and rules of etiquette are meant basically to ensure smooth or unhampered performance of required duties. In this case the duty is to eat propery and let others also enjoy their meal. This is in a way an attempt at disciplined discharge of the activity of communal eating. Hence to ensure a pleasant, enjoyable experience of eating with several people, such manners are needed. If no such self discipline is ensured through the manners that are inculcated from childhood, there would be bedlam at the table. Might shall be right. Old and infirm would be left out without food, younger and strong would cary off a share much larger than needed. This would cause wastage of food, its unequal distribution and a very unhappy state of affairs. Hence table manners are required to be taught to the young from an early age. What kind of manners? Do we need to ape the west in this? Not necessarily. Some of the practices that take place on their tables are prevalent here in our country. We have our own way of doing things. Therefore we need not look to the web sites. Each family in our country teaches its young how to behave when at the dining table or having food with the family may be in or near the kitchen. These need to be pursued vigorously. Unfortunately discipline in the present day India is eroding in every sphere. Even in the family for reasons that I need not elaborate here discipline is fading. Now it is a matter of debate as to whether we should teach table manners to our young or no. Can there be any doubt on this score?
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Hi., Manners are important in society. They help us to be civil to one another. Because a person who minds their manners knows how to act in every circumstance he tends to feel comfortable in unfamiliar surroundings.Nowhere are manners more important that at the table. Table manners prevent diners from being sloppy, offensive and boorish. They help to communicate respect to hosts and guests alike. Table manners are not hard and fast rules, rather they are helpful guidelines in our social relationships. Table manners are the etiquette used when eating. This includes the appropriate use of utensils. Different cultures have different standards for table manners. Many table manners evolved out of practicality. For example, it is generally impolite to put elbows on tables since doing so creates a risk of tipping over bowls and cups.
Basic Table Manners Good basic table manners are important because they ensure that both guests and hosts are comfortable at the table. Table manners are mostly common sense. Following these will carry you through most common situations from Formal Dinners to a night of poker with the guys. 1. Sit up straight. Try not to slouch or lean back in your chair 2. Don't speak with your mouth full of food. if you have only a relatively small bite, tuck it into your cheek with your tongue and speak briefly. 3. Chew quietly, and try not to slurp. Making noises is not only unappetizing, and distracting, but it can also interrupt the flow of conversation. 4. Keep bites small. In order to facilitate the above rules it is smart to keep bite sizes to a moderate forkful. Cut meat and salad so that it doesn't hang from your mouth after you shovel it in. Don't cut all of your meat at one time, this tends to remind people of feeding small children - and the messiness associated with this activity. 5. Eat at a leisurely pace. This rule, besides being good for the digestion, also shows your host that you want to enjoy the food and the company. Eating quickly and running is sign of disrespect for the host, as it shows that your focus is on the food and that you would rather be at home watching the grass grow than passing time with your host. 6. Don't wave utensils in the air, especially knives or if there is food on them. Besides the danger of knocking over glasses, piercing waiters or launching a pea into the eye of your date, this is a sign of over-excitedness that may be unappealing to those present. Earnestness is to be commended, but irrational exuberance goes beyond the limits of good table manners. 7. Keep your elbows off the table. You have also heard this one from your mother, ad infinitum, but in close dining situations it is a vital rule. Elbows take up table space and can be a danger in knocking plates or glasses. Elbows on the table give you something to lean on and tend to lull you into slouching. If you must lean on the table a good tactic is to take a roll or piece of bread into your free hand and rest part of your forearm on the table. 8. Don't Reach. You don't want to get in the way of people either eating or talking. Not only is it as impolite as standing in front of a TV with other people behind you, but there is always the possibility of upsetting glasses or running your sleeve through someone's mashed potatoes. 9. Don't forget please and thank you. These are handy words in most situations but especially vital at the table where common courtesies are noticed by everyone present. 10. Excuse yourself when leaving the table. You don't want people to think that you are tired of their company. If you must leave the table make your excuses somewhat obvious and appear to be pressing. You want to leave people with the impression that you would rather remain at the table talking with them than doing anything else, but the matter at hand is so pressing that it must be attended to at once. 11. Compliment the Cook. Even if the food is perfectly awful say something nice. You don't have to lie, simply find the positive side of the burnt leg of lamb..."Gee, the sauce was sure tasty." It is always pleasant to end a meal on a positive note. 12. Wipe your mouth before drinking. This can be avoided by first wiping your lips with your napkin.
Indian table manners * Wait for the host or the eldest person to start first. * You should maintain silence while eating food. You are not expected to chat unnecessarily with the people around the table. * It is acceptable not to use cutlery for eating, as many foods - such as Indian breads and curry - are best enjoyed when eating with the hand. * Wash hands thoroughly before sitting at the table as some Indian foods are primarily eaten by hand. Also, wash hands after eating the food. Usually, a finger bowl (with luke warm water and lemon) is served per person for rinsing fingers. * In North India, when eating curry, the gravy must not be allowed to stain the fingers --only the fingertips are used. However, in South India, it is acceptable to use more of your hand. * When flatbreads such as chapati, roti, or naan are served with the meal, it is acceptable and expected to use pieces of them to gather food and sop-up gravies and curries. * The cardinal rule of dining is to always use the right hand when eating or receiving food and never the left. Even a piece from the bread is broken using the right hand alone. * It is considered inappropriate to use your fingers to share food from someone else's plate once you have started using your own. Instead, ask for a clean spoon to transfer the food to your plate from the common dish. * When eating with hands, always eat with right, as mentioned above. However, use only the other clean hand to transfer food from a common dish on the table. * It is not necessary to taste each and every dish prepared; but you must finish everything on the plate as it is considered a respect for served food. For that reason, take only as much food on the plate you can finish.
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How to Behave at the Dining Table
1. Posture: Sit up straight at the table, never lean backward, nor forward and also never let the elbows touch the table. This makes a good impression. When you are not eating, keep your hands on your lap or rest on the table.
2. "Please" and "Thank you": Say "Please" when asking people to pass you something and "Thank you" when you receive something. These are basic table manners.
3. Napkin: The best way to use a napkin is to place it on your lap, to catch crumbs or drips while eating food and should be kept back on the table neatly, after the meal is finished.
4. Hosts: Generally the head of the family or the host passes the meal down to the family, mostly done in counter clockwise movement around the table.
5. Fork and Knife: It is best to order foods that can be eaten with a knife and a fork. Finger foods can be messy and are best left for informal dining.
6. Slow and Quiet: Chew small morsels food and swallow with the mouth closed. The only way to eat is slowly and quietly.
7. Tablecloth: Remember that the tablecloth should be kept clean. Do not put bones or any other morsels on the table.
8. Spitting: If there is something in the mouth, which can't be swallowed, quietly put it in a paper napkin and then continue. (E.g. bones, seeds, curry leaves, etc.). Avoid spitting anything out.
Etiquettes
9. End the meal properly. When a person has finished eating, the fork and the knife are placed diagonally crossed across the plate, this is the best way to inform the server that you have finished eating.
10. Appreciation: After finishing your meal, express appreciation for the meal. You can perhaps say Thank you so much; It was a very tasty meal. And then wait for all to finish before leaving the table.
11. Smoking: None should smoke while seated for the meal.
12. Wait for others to start eating.
13. One should avoid touching nose, teeth and combing hair while dinning.
These are the basic things to follow when u are going to have an Indian dinner. This is the style of Indians. These instructions are normally given to foreigners when they wish to eat Indian food in Indian style.
Instructions
Step 1 :
Wash your hands. A common show of proper table manners in the United States, it is imperative in India where fingers are eating utensils.
Step 2 :
Tear your bread into pieces and wrap it around other foods. Rip Indian breads such as nans, parathas, bhakris and rotis, into narrow strips with your fingers, pile other foods on them, and wrap and dip them in curry sauce.
Step 3:
Flex that thumb. Recommended by travel gurus, a helpful technique for eating all those Indian rice dishes is to utilize the thumb to scoop the food onto your fingers. Practice by placing your thumb beside the rice and twisting your wrist while pushing the rice onto your fingers, holding them together and flat.
Step 4:
Throw your plate away. In some areas of India, banana leaves serve as plates. They are large and in rural areas, torn into plate-sized pieces with ragged edges. In Indian restaurants, rectangular-cut leaves hold a diner's meal.
Step 5:
Shove your left hand in your lap. Sit on it if you have to and keep it there. In India it is considered unsanitary to eat (or shake hands) with one's left hand, which is reserved for "toilet" activities. Use your right hand for all your eating.
Step 6:
Lick your fingers when you're done. In India, this is a proper table manner. There's nothing better than finishing off a great meal by licking all the curry sauce from your fingers.
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hi first table spread should be spread over the table. it should be in mild color which will attract the people. then we have to arrange the plates in the table in such a way that in the left side of the plate we should arrange a fork and in the right side we have to keep a knife.
a glass of water should be kept at the righttop of the plate. Dishes should be kept in the table in such a way that all the items should be easily accessible to all the people those who are sitting in the table.
Table manners are more important because it will give a good mood to the people those who are gonna eat. it will give a good impression about the dishes to them
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First impressions are very important especially when it comes to professional reasons. Having the right kind of dining etiquette can help you score brownie points with prospective employers as well; a look at some tips for the same.
First impressions have an important place in various walks of life and they go a long way in creating an ever-lasting impression about your personality. The right etiquette can help you in your professional and personal life as well. Making a powerful impression about yourself can help you get the most desirable jobs and also earn you respect in the society. After all, how many of us would want to deal with ill-mannered people? If you are a keen observer of people around you, you will notice that certain people have a way of getting around others by displaying good manners and behavioral patterns. Business etiquette is really as important as dining etiquette and these can make a world of a difference to your life. Most often, professionals often leave their dining etiquette way back in the school days. If you wish to sharpen your memory regarding your dining etiquette and discipline methods that you would need to maintain then read some of these dining etiquette tips mentioned below.
Dining Etiquette Tips: With the kind of culture that exists today, dining etiquette is almost a thing of the past. You can use some of these dining etiquette tips to present yourself in an effective manner to the people around you.
It may sound old fashioned to some but remember that men have to be a little ahead of the women when they are going towards the dining table. They should stand till the host or the hostess finishes the announcements and sits down.
The napkin is another important part about dining etiquette and I have often seen people struggling with the same. Unfold the napkin only when everyone is seated at the dining table and place it on the lap. This has to be unfolded either in the shape of a large triangle or in the shape of a rectangle. Your napkin is not a substitute for tissue; you can always ask for a separate tissue paper if you feel the need to do so.
Talking with food in your mouth is the first mistake you would commit at the dining table. Dining etiquette needs to be maintained as talking too much at dinnertime can be a real turn off for many.
When you are at the dining table, you must know the order of the food and the crockery that is placed to be able to maintain the dining etiquette. Solid food is always placed on the left and any form of liquid is placed on the right. The largest plate is the dinner plate, a medium sized plate would be your salad plate and a small sized plate would be your bread plate. The glass of wine or water will be placed on the right side. Begin using the spoons and forks from the outside area and towards the inside of the plate.
Use the knife to butter the bread. Take some amount of butter in your plate and use the butter knife to spread the butter.
When soup is served to you, it may at times be really too hot to be consumed. Even then, blowing on the hot soup is not the right kind of dining etiquette one would expect from a professional!
Sometimes the salad may contain huge leaves that may be a little cumbersome to eat. In that case use your salad fork to cut them into smaller pieces.
Order something that is easy to eat if you wish to avoid drawing attention to yourself! This will be particularly helpful if your employer gives the dinner party.
Always remember to maintain a correct posture at the dining table. Remember one important thing about dining etiquette; do not rush to grab food in front of a person.
If you notice that some wine has also been served then pick up the glass by holding the stem of the glass. You need to use your thumb and the first two fingers for this.
When you use the knife to cut small pieces of food, cut only 2 to 3 pieces at a time. Eat only few pieces at a time as well.
When it’s time to use the finger bowl, dip the fingers of only one hand at first. Use the napkin on your lap to dry them.
Dining etiquette is not really as difficult as it may seem to be. You may find it difficult to adjust in the beginning but remember that all it takes is a little bit of thinking and consideration from your side to be able to present yourself in the best manner possible.
Table manners are the etiquette used when eating. This includes the proper use of utensils and the proper behavior in the table. Different cultures have different standards for table manners. One standard of one culture might be differently viewed by another culture. So when dealing with table manners, you should bear in mind the culture of the people around you and the environment. You don't want to be different and be the topic of the people around you if you practice your table manners in an ethnic community right? Some examples of table manners are listed below...
American table manners
Table Layout
* Bread plates are to the left of the main plate, beverage glasses are to the right. * Salad fork, knife and soup spoon are further from the main plate than the main course knife, fork and spoon. Dessert utensils are either placed above the main plate or served with dessert.
General Behavior
* Chew with your mouth closed. * Do not talk at an excessively loud volume. * If at all possible, refrain from coughing or sneezing at the table. * Never tilt back your chair while at the table, or at any other time. * Do not make unbecoming noises while eating. * Do not play with food or table utensils. * Do not single out or chastise someone who has shown poor table manners. * Do not put your elbows on the table or slouch. * Always ask the host or hostess to be excused before leaving the table. * Do not stare at anyone while he or she is eating. * Never talk on your phone at table. If urgent, ask host or hostess to be excused, and go outside. Apologize when returned.
Utensils
* Do not eat food with your fingers unless you are eating foods customarily eaten with fingers, such as bread, french fries, chicken wings, pizza, etc. * The fork may be used either in the American (use the fork in your left hand while cutting; switch to right hand to pick up and eat a piece) or the Continental (fork remains in the left hand) fashion -- either is now acceptable. (See Fork etiquette) * The fork is used to convey any solid food to the mouth. * The knife blade should be placed on the edge of your plate when not in use. The blade should always face inward. * When you have finished eating soup, the spoon should be placed to the side of the saucer, not left in the bowl. * Keep your napkin on your lap. At more formal occasions all diners will wait to place their napkins on their laps until the host or hostess places his or her napkin on his or her lap * When eating barbecue or some other messy foods such as cracked crab, a 'bib' napkin may be provided for and used by adults. Usually these foods are also eaten by hand, and wet wipes or paper napkins should be used to clean the hands. * When using paper napkins, never ball them up or allow stains to show. * Use your silverware from the outside moving inward toward the main plate. (Salad fork, knife and soup spoon are further from the main plate than the main course knife, fork and spoon. Dessert utensils are either placed above the main plate or served with dessert.)
Dining
* A prayer or 'blessing' may be customary in some families, and the guests should join in even if they are not religious or do not follow the same religion. Most prayers are made before the meal is eaten. In some cases, blessings may be more humorous than reverent. * Do not start eating until (a) every person is served or (b) those who have not been served request that you begin without waiting. At more formal occasions all diners will wait to begin until the hostess or host lifts a fork or spoon. * When a dish is presented 'family style', the food is served to one's plate and then passed on to the next person. * When serving, serve from the left and pick up the dish from the right. Beverages are both served and removed from the right. * Eat soup noiselessly and with the side of the spoon. * Tea or coffee should never be poured into the saucer to cool but should be sipped from the cup. Alternatively, ice may be used to cool either.
At the end of the meal
* It is acceptable in most places to not finish all of the food on your plate. * When finished with your meal, place your knife and fork with handles at the 4 o'clock position and the tines of the fork down to signal to the server you are done. * Except in a public restaurant, do not ask to take some of your uneaten food away from the meal after it ends, especially when having a formal dinner.
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Hello, In my opinion:
From the tender age of child will be very easily adapatable and accomodative. As elders we are setting an environment so that children will learn. By setting the guidelines and rules children will learn how to interact with one another. In order to acehive that we have to set an right example/model so that children will follow.
Any basic education/role modelling starts from every home. Family plays a vital role in bring up the kids. Nurture & nourishment takes place in the hands of parents. Children will look after the parents as role models and try to mirror them.
Table manners is one of them. Basically we are teaching the kids how to interact with the people. Similarly what behaviour is acceptable/not. Certain gound rules will apply in order to maintain cordial relations among the people.
Teach a child what is acceptable behaviour and what is not.Bascially we are teaching the kids, how to interact with the people. To maintain a cordial relationshiop we should follow the rules which is universally acceptable . These are all interpersonal relationship skills.
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